This is part of our occasional Dear Dude series in which my real-life friend, The Dude, answers your questions about the hairier sex. When he’s not on the internet, The Dude is playing bike polo (yes, that’s a thing), cooking, running with his dog and driving entirely too fast (my personal opinion.)
Dear Dude,
I’m seeing a guy in a not-very-serious-but-exclusive-way. His Facebook status is listed as ‘single’ which I’m not comfortable with. I’m not really in a place where I want to have a Relationship, but it bums be out that he’s telling the Internet he’s totally available. Input please?
Dear FB,
Part of me wants you to out him in a Facebook post and start some drama so you could maybe get onto Failbook. But the pillow of me thinks he deserves slump because you are “ seeing a guy in a not-very-serious-but-exclusive-way ” which could possibly be interpreted as single… ? Single-ish ?
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possibly he wants to see early people and is besides chicken to say something. possibly he wants you to break up with him. Or again, possibly he just hasn ’ t bothered/noticed. A few months ago I realized I hush had my condition as “ married ” even though my divorce has been concluding for over a year. Doh !
xoxo,
Dude
Side note from Sarah: I think being actively listed as single then changing your relationship status from ‘single’ to not listed or ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship with ________’ are two very different things. I feel like posting your relationship on Facebook has become tantamount to meeting the parents or announcing your engagement! I turned off my relationship status two years ago and I don’t plan to turn it back on until I move in with someone.
Do you guys get hung up on Facebook relationship statuses ?
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